Last week, we talked about sex toys- the kind you use on yourself or on your lover. This week, we're venturing out slightly, talking about sex equipment- the kind you use to create a scene, restrain a person and more. Yes, today we talk a bit about BDSM sex furniture and how even those who are "vanilla" can enjoy them with their lovers.
Though I've not covered about BDSM, I do teach a workshop helping writers learn more about the basics of BDSM and all its components. One of those happens to be scening- where you act out a role play, use toys, and even furniture to create a mood and mindset within the person you're involved with. So, what are some of the most popular pieces of furniture and how can they be used in less intense play?
One of the most popular pieces of equipment help you when you're having sex. I call them wedges and slings, others call them by other names. Wedges incline parts of the body to allow full penetration and to also ease the burden of holding a position for any length of time. Slings do the same, but using straps attached to the headboard or under the mattress to provide the stability. In this category, I also place restraints. Restraints are for bondage play, creating the fantasy of being tied up and other fun activities.
I recommend these furniture pieces for those interested in BDSM and those who want to help ease pressure or perhaps have medical issues that would benefit from using these items. They're fairly self-explanatory in how they work and how to best use them.
The next category is that of cages. Cages are fun to use when role playing. They can be very expensive, though some people come across them at fairly decent prices or learn to adapt smaller versions into larger versions with some creativity. Cages are used for discipline and in some cases, used to create an environment of a sex slave. (I can highly recommend this particular play practice when someone is NOT claustrophobic.)
Next on my list are crosses. Crosses can be box style, two sided or the standard St. Andrews style. They're great for binding someone and yet having them free enough to be able to paddle them or tease them with other sensory objects. I have to admit, I like the idea of a two-sided cross for the versatility inherent in the design. It allows you to have them pressed against the base or between the two sides, thus creating an intriguing area to strap parts of the body. For those who might not have the money for the cross, you can always use restraints on a door to help create the same effect. One of my best friend's recommends a whipping post also for some fun play as well.
The next set of furniture on my list are horses. No, I don't mean an equine, I mean those pieces of equipment similar in design to a vaulting horse you see in gymnastics. They're used to bend people over or backwards and to restrain them so they're at the perfect angle to pleasure or to tease sexually. An item similar to the horses, but can be used in conjunction with other items is the spreader bar. Whether you are a novice at restraint play or an expert, a good spreader bar can be used to not only restrain arms or legs, but have it portable and hideable (important if you have kidlets).
Along the same lines of the horses are the stepping stools. These are like the kind you buy at any store, with padding as well as being longer and wider to accomodate kneeling or sitting. This allows comfort for the person who is kneeling on it or bending over it, providing support and an area to restrain them.
Toys like this can be acquired by reputable makers such as: Adam and Eve, Extreme Restraints, Toys 4 Lust, the Stockroom, and Sonny Black Dungeon Furniture. You can even learn to make your own toys and furniture if you have the desire and the basic skills. Spend some time at these sites, think about how you can use them and how to incorporate them into some fun for you and your loved one.
Until next week!
Always,
Mistress Cynnara (continue reading &aquo;)
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